Showing posts with label conversations. Show all posts
Showing posts with label conversations. Show all posts
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
How Many Clifford's Are Out There?
One recent evening, returning from a hospital visit with my father-in-law, I had to stop for gas on the long ride home. It was late. I was thirsty and tired. That's when I noticed a sign with an offer I could not refuse: "Free Fountain Soda with 10-Gallon Fill-Up".
After pumping enough diesel to more than double the soda requirement, I glanced over at the convenience mart. I could easily see through the plate glass that the young man working inside was leaning against a counter reading a magazine.
I must admit that I routinely pass on striking up conversations with people at work if they look busy. I do not want to be the cause of a manager taking them aside to remind them they are paid to work, not talk. This young man was clearly not busy.
Just before heading inside I grabbed my Bible, a tract, and a copy of Mark Cahill's One Heartbeat Away, my favorite book to hand to non-Christians.
As I walked toward the door, I ran several conversation starters through my head and imagined how I might turn the conversation to the gospel. Such mental gymnastics are good, I suppose, but I've never had a conversation that followed the dialogue I construct in my head. The point here is to never talk yourself out of sharing the gospel because of an imaginary conversation. Give the Lord a chance to lead you in the actual conversation.
In I go. I asked about the free soda offer, then I struck up a short conversation with with the employee. Nothing special, just everyday talk. The young man, Clifford, seemed relieved to talk with someone rather than continue with his magazine. After a few minutes I decided to turn the conversation to the gospel with, "I'm working on a project, would you mind answering a question?"
People seem to love this question. I don't know if it's because they get an opportunity to influence the outcome of my research, if their curiosity is piqued, or if they simply recall their own struggles to complete some school project and now feel compelled to minimize my own pain. What I do know is that so far no one has ever said, "No, thanks."
"Sure," was the helpful reply, "what's the question?"
"On a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being 'I could be entirely wrong,' and 10 being 'I am absolutely certain that I am right,' how would you rate your spiritual beliefs?"
Clifford told me "5." I asked what his spiritual background was and he told me, "Christian."
"Wow," I said, "You're Christian today but tomorrow there is a 50-50 chance you'll walk away?"
We chatted about his upbringing, how he once asked Jesus into his heart and now feels totally disconnected from the church. I told him that when I meet people who feel this way, I ask one important question: "Do you consider yourself to be a good person?"
"Yes, I think I'm a pretty good person."
"Interesting. Do you mind if I walk you through a quick test to see if that's true?"
Clifford was intrigued now, and smiling. He gave me an enthusiastic, "Sure!"
So, I walked him through a few of the Ten Commandments. In less than two minutes, Clifford's smile had faded and he was serious. He had quickly admitted to being a liar, a thief, an adulterer, and a murderer. When faced with the question, "If God judged you by the Ten Commandments, would you be innocent or guilty?" he clearly understood that a 5-rating is not comforting.
I spent the next few minutes clearly explaining the gospel to Clifford. Before I left he knew that he needed to repent and trust the Savior, not just recite a prayer.
As I left I told Clifford, "I don't believe God brought me here tonight just to get a free drink. We met for a reason." Clifford agreed, and thanked me for taking the time to talk with him.
How many Clifford's are out there? How many people have falsely convinced themselves that they are Christians without understanding the holiness of God, or their need to repent and trust in the risen Savior?
Armor up, Christian! Carry your Bible where ever you go. Read it to prepare yourself to defend the truth in season and out. Carry tracts and your favorite apologetic books to hand out. There are many more Clifford's out there who need to understand the true gospel, before it's too late.
Monday, March 1, 2010
A Great Conversation Starter
I am always looking for ways to start conversations with people. Because of this, I try to listen carefully to the first few sentences when people begin speaking. Sometimes I hear a question or a statement that works well in nearly any situation. Some people call these statements and questions "Ice breakers". Two of my favorites, courtesy of Mark Cahill, are:
"Hello. Do you mind if I ask you an interesting question?" and,
"Hello. I'm working on a project, would you be willing to answer a few questions?"
In addition to these, I find it works well to begin a conversation simply by asking about something the person is wearing, a distinguishing mark (such as a tatoo), or something they are doing.
Recently, while listening to Todd Friel on Wretched Radio (WretchedRadio.com), I heard another conversation starter that I have added to my arsenal: "Hello. Can I ask you, on a scale of one to ten, how you would rate your spiritual beliefs: with one being, "I could easily be wrong", and ten being, "I am unquestionably certain that my beliefs are true."
There is nothing offensive or off-putting about this question, and it allows the person to tell you something about themselves before you share your own rating, and then the gospel. In addition, you gain tremendous insight into their willingness to hear what you have to say.
Why not give it a try the next time you feel the tug of the Holy Spirit prompting you to be a bold witness for Jesus Christ?
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Festivals... Why they are the perfect place to share the gospel.
Weekends can be beautiful here in the mid-Atlantic. The trees display magnificent colors, certainly better than any man-made fireworks display; the air is crisp and clean; the sky is sparkling blue. What better time for outdoor activities and festivals?
One local community held a typical fall festival a few weekends ago. They line the streets with vendors, community groups, businesses, or anyone else willing to fill out an application and pay a nominal fee. On some streets I found amusements for children, on others demonstrations by skateboarders and martial arts groups. Everywhere people were milling about to take in the sights.
Festivals such as this are perfect places to meet others and share the gospel. If you've never shared the gospel before, there are a number of reasons you should begin at the next festival near you.
For one thing, handing out tracts could never be easier. Chances are you will quickly run into someone who wants to hand you something: a sale flier, a map of the event, a list of activities, the latest offer from the neighborhood bank, even an invitation to a local church. This is the easiest time ever to hand someone a tract. I simply say, "I'll trade!" I have never had the person turn down a tract. Why would they, they want me to take their material, and I know they need mine.
Secondly, there a lots of people with time to spare. If they were in a hurry, they would not be at the festival, so they are more likely to stop and talk with you than, for example, people heading into a grocery store. Also, with so many people around you are sure to get into good conversations. Even if one does not go well, there are plenty of other people to chat with.
Next, you are likely to run into other believers who can encourage you and hold you accountable.
- Other believers encourage with their strength, their prayers, their words. Christ, when he sent his disciples out, sent them in two's. I think part of the reason was so they could lift each other up when they were confronted with resistance or intimidation.
- Fellow believers can also hold you accountable. You've probably spoken of your desire to share the gospel with others, well now is the time to show them that it's not just talk.
Be bold! Head out to the next well attended event near you.
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